It is my belief that all couples can benefit from couples counseling!

The purpose of couple’s therapy is to restore a better level of functioning in couples who experience relationship distress. The reasons for distress can include poor communication, the interference of life stressors, and other problems interfering with each member perceiving love or affection from the other.

The focus of couples therapy is to identify the presence of dissatisfaction and distress in the relationship, and to restore the relationship to a better and healthier level of functioning.

Marriage or partnership as a whole is different from the sum of its parts. For example, to describe the two individuals separately is not the same as describing the pair of them in relationship and interaction. I help the couple pay attention to the patterns which connect them as a means of appreciating the overall structure of their relationship.

 


 

Marriage Counseling, also called Couples Therapy, helps couples — married or not — understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship. Relationship counseling gives couples, family members, friends, and even coworkers the tools to communicate better, negotiate differences, problem solve and even argue in a healthier way.

Marriage counseling is often short term. You may need only a few sessions to help you weather a crisis. Or you may need marriage counseling for several months, particularly if your relationship has greatly deteriorated. As with individual psychotherapy, you typically see a marriage counselor once a week.

Most marriages and other relationships aren’t perfect. Each person brings his or her own ideas, values, opinions and personal history into a relationship, and they don’t always match their partner’s. Those differences don’t necessarily mean your relationship is bound for conflict. To the contrary, differences can be complementary — you know the saying about opposites attracting. These differences can also help people understand, respect and accept opposing views and cultures.

But relationships can be tested. Differences or habits that you once found endearing may grate on your nerves after time together. Sometimes specific issues, such as an extramarital affair or loss of sexual attraction, trigger problems in a relationship. Other times, there’s a gradual disintegration of communication and caring.

No matter the cause, distress in a relationship can create undue stress, tension, sadness, worry, fear and other problems. You may hope your relationship troubles just go away on their own. But left to fester, a bad relationship may only worsen and eventually lead to physical or psychological problems, such as depression. A bad relationship can also create problems on the job and affect other family members or even friendships as people feel compelled to take sides.

 

Information courtesy of the Mayo Clinic.